Offended

I knew when I did it that it was going to come back to bite me on the butt. Dave had walked up to me and was in my space and I smelled that fermenting apple smell. Alcohol. So I said "I smell alcohol." Naturally he told me that he had not been drinking and that was that. So he had a one on one counseling session yesterday and he told her about it. Her comment was how long is he going to put up with that. So he is telling me this and I'm confused....put up with what? He said sniffing to see if he was drinking. Whoa. I have taken immediate offense because I feel accused of something I don't do. And I have no idea where his counselor gets the impression that I am like that. Obviously I have no idea what he says to her. Anyway for the record....yes I am co-dependent, but I don't look for it. I asked him what his response was and he said oh he wasn't worried about it.
So I am thinking about this whole thing. I think I was feeling a bit safe and the eggshells are a bit firmer and that is why I said anything the day of smelling. Maybe I was wrong.
Anyway on to the other subject...Dave also watched a movie yesterday in group. Thinks we need to watch this movie at home. All fine. Except..... when he is telling me about this movie I can see him searching for the right words to get me to watch the movie without pissing me off. And he is right.....him telling me how to handle my relationship with Myk pisses me off. And I got the distinct impression that is why he wants us to watch this movie....so WE can quit enabling Myk. He tempers it with I might learn something about his addiction also. He forgets that I have been dealing with his addiction for 25 years and with Myk's for five. I'm willing to watch the movie and learn something, but I'm not willing to be willingly manipulated. Maybe that is where Dave's anger towards me comes from. The anger that he keeps hidden part of the time.
I think I heard an eggshell crack.