Girls

I hired Elizabeth to babysit today so I could go to the grocery store by myself.  My usual kid moved and is hard to pin down.  So I contacted Elizabeth and she said sure.  Then she texted me back asking if Adrianna could come play also.  I left that up to her.  So we picked them both up.  I did my shopping and came home.  Adrianna played mostly with the neighbor girl and seemed to love the playground.  My guess is because it is there and she doesn't get a lot of free playground time.  Took them home and asked Elizabeth is she wanted to join us for family dinner tomorrow night.  She said yes and that she would ask.
Skip forward.  I texted to see if she had asked and she had.  No problem.  Then she texts back asking if Adrianna can come also.  I knew that was coming and that was fine.  She said her mom was the one who kept asking if Adrianna could come.  That didn't surprise me. Some things never change.
I hope I'm not making a mistake.  My littles lost their cousins when Tanya did her thing of cutting off her entire family.  Those cousins lost these cousins.  When Tanya thought she could fix things by just saying sorry and it was all Randy's fault, I didn't come around on that.  I didn't want to put my littles back in that position of having Tanya yank the cousins away again.  It has happened more than once so I consider it a good possibility to happen again.  And Audrie and Connor have already had so much loss in their little lives.
The major loss coming has kind of put things in a new perspective. It is a permanent loss.  And so maybe it is time to reconnect the cousins.  I'm still not "reconnecting" with Tanya.  And that is still my choice.  Forgiveness does not mean that I want her in my life.  I don't particularly care for people who use their children as pawns and so I choose not to have her in my life.  So we work around that slowly. The ground rules that I set up with Elizabeth last year still stand and now include Adrianna.  And I guess, for now, it is working.