Christmas Ships

We went down to the river to watch the Christmas ships tonight.  We started off by the little ampitheater, but moved back up river when it appeared they weren't going to make it all the way down. The littles thought it was pretty cool.  We all liked the lochness monster.  Audrie liked the Santa best.  She said it was a Christmas boat.
I went to text Dave to tell him.  Texted David instead.  Wonder how long that is going to happen  David told me it is just habit.  And it is.

Night Time Walk

The littles and I ventured out for a night time walk.  We don't do enough of those.  The moon was out and in all it's glory.  We saw some cats and a dog.  Both kids were enthralled with all the Christmas lights in our neighborhood.  And it didn't matter if it was a big display or one strand of lights.  They liked them all.  It was a nice time.  Maybe we need to do some more of them weather permitting.

Addiction is Showing

I got a text from Jodi asking for a return call ASAP.  Seems Doug, whom she has never met, called her and accused Josh of stealing Dave's truck and he was calling the authorities as soon as he got to Dave's house.  Said one of the neighbors saw Josh get in it and drive it away.
Ummmmm Doug's truck is parked behind Dave's truck blocking it in.
I called the neighbors and got the truth because we know if you are using you are lying.  So Jeannie had called Doug to find out if Josh had returned the truck.  She knew he had borrowed it awhile back.  That was in Sept and the truck has been on the property ever since except when we used it to transport Dave to appointments.  Wow nothing about Josh getting in it and stealing it.
Then I called Joe.  Doug had called him to go see if the truck was in the driveway.  So Doug had no intention of coming out to check.  That again was just a lie. And of course the truck is in the driveway right in front of Doug's truck just like he left it.
Doug never called Jeannie back to say it is in the driveway.  He must not have been listening to her anyway otherwise he would have known she was talking awhile back.
Doug did not call Jodi and apologize for calling Josh a thief and letting her know the truck is there.
Someones addiction is showing and his paranoia.

Wrong Assumption

So I assumed the time of the funeral was made Tuesday.  Sounds like it was actually made Wednesday and that Gayle and Bill got to be part of the arrangments.  Glad to know that someone did.  Still amazed at being the outcast.  I'm sure it would not have made Dave happy.
I miss  him.  He loved me.

Visit to the Funeral Home

I had called Dave's mom to check up and see how she was doing.  She told me they had an appt. for a viewing at the funeral home.  I expressed surprise.  She invited us to tag along.  We did.
I was greatly appreciative of the quiet time to be with Dave and to be able to explain more to the littles.  They were able to question, and touch and be in the moment without outside prejudices.  They wanted many different angles to see.  There was no tension.  Just love and tenderness.
My mom came with us so she too got to say good bye.  It was good.  And now when we go next week for the service the littles will have a little better understanding of what the place is and what the funeral is all about.
I really am grateful to Gayle for the invite to tag along.  Wouldn't have even knew there was the possibility if I hadn't called her.  Amazing how things work out the way they are suppose to sometimes no matter what anyone else thinks.

Processing

On Tuesday when we went up to the house to see Dave we were not given a moment's privacy.  And while maybe I could have asked I didn't.  Since I had been called a thief at least three times the night before I didn't think we would be left alone.  So I was glad I had said my good byes the night before.  What I would have liked was a few moments alone with Dave and the littles to do some explaining. And then Dave was taken away and I thought that was the end.  I knew he wanted to be cremated and I just assumed that would be done quickly.
Called Gayle today and she commented about the funeral being on the 13th.  She was still there when Doug made the time with the funeral home.  Then she said she was taking the twins to the funeral parlor tomorrow to see Dave.  Wait, what?  He is still there and they have an appt. to see him.  So she said we could tag along on that.  And I think we will.
Because we can have private time there that no one can take away from us or not allow us to have.  As of yet I still haven't gotten an official notification of the funeral.  Probably won't since I shared that info with Tanya and she told Doug right away that we knew.
Processing.  Made my head hurt.  I'm not understanding any of it.

Loretta

It hit me like a brick.  The littles and I needed to make a trip to Yacolt.  In our family Loretta is always the one who comes and tells us about who is really sick and who died.  I kind of thought that Gayle might have called her, but we needed to go see her.
So after work and care house the littles and I drove on out to the Lair.  No one answered the door, but all the lights were on and the fire was a blazing.  So we went around back and saw those Scottish cows that are so cool looking.  The cows all mooed at us.  Walked back out front and saw lights on out in the shop.
Walked down there and found Harvey.  He called Loretta and she came home from next door. She was shocked to say the least.  She had just seen Dave a couple of months ago.  She had stopped by and he was on his way out to get the littles.  They had a nice but short conversation.
He had been out to her house a couple of months before that on the bike.  She wasn't home but he saw Harvey.  Just keeping in touch.
She just tells the most amazing stories and is just a warm person.  The littles were quite impressed with her stuffed bear.  I like him too.
I'm so glad we went and spent the time with her and Harvey.  She was glad we came also.  Hugs all the way around.