Amanda came to work today with this bruise on her arm. I asked her where she got it and who did it to her. She replied that she got bit. My first instinct is the child she is nanny to part-time. Nope her boyfriend did it. No big deal. He bites her all the time. She did not want to hear that it is assault and that he could go to jail for it. He doesn't mean anything by it....it is not a control issue. We asked her how come she didn't bite him back and she said she couldn't hurt him. Why oh why does she care more about him than he cares about her? I told her that if she could/would not bite him back to inform him that next time I see a bruise like that on her I will call the cops. It is assault and it is domestic violence. I'm not the first one to tell her. She is not listening to anyone.
Ah I remember the stupidity of youth. All women seem to have had that jerk of a boyfriend at some point in time who thinks it is all right to treat her badly. Some of us outgrow it. I hope she does. She isn't there yet and in the meantime she has went through all her schooling money being social with him. So so so sad.
A misunderstanding here? Dawn, he is seriously nothing like that, he is not at all controlling or aggressive. Jerk is not a word anyone would use to define him. We aren't out having sex together so one of our main ways of showing affection is rough housing. but he would never intentionally mark me in the process, he felt horrible over it and wouldn't roughhouse with me at all for days. He is an incredibly good and gentle man and if you only knew him you would know that. :) thanks for the concern but it is truly unnecessary, I promise.
ReplyDeleteMy only response because I truly think you believe everything you just said is....biting is never accidental..it is always intentional.
ReplyDeleteI absolutely love you and only want great things for you.