The nurse from the assisted living called me last week. It is time to move my mom to a memory care unit. Several reasons for this. The first and foremost is a memory care unit will be better suited for her. They will have activities designed for dementia patients. They have more staff to interact and distract.
So my search has begun again for a place for Mom. I toured two new places today. I pretty much excluded the ones I had already been to. The two places today were like night and day. So different. And I liked things about both of them. If I could just combine the things I liked into one place. I'm going to see one more and then choose.
Saw Mom this afternoon and she was having a pretty lucid moment and that made her pretty sad. She asked questions that I and one of the aids answered. Maybe it is time to sugarcoat some answers even in times of lucidity. Anyway I told her about the two places and asked her opinion. She leaned the same way I did even if the other place was "nicer".
Not looking forward to the transition. Has to be done. Here is to hoping there is only one transition and that she doesn't have to move again....or if she does she is beyond the knowing.
Didn't know you'd gone through this with your mom. I'm sure you did the very best you could for her, and that, at some level, she was aware of you and your love.
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