I had a conversation online with Catie. She is Tanya's first born. I thought I had met her at Dave's funeral, but I met her sister. It's not amazing that I got them mixed up on that day of all days.
Anyway that is one sad girl. I always knew the day would come when the question would be asked why did you keep those children and not us. I did not expect it to manifest into we weren't wanted by anyone including the people who adopted us. And I'm not sure that is true, but I think the abandonment issue started at birth. She blames it on how she looks.
I simply told her that she is beautiful and she has beautiful children. I told her she is wanted by her children and her husband and that I can't do or say anything that will ever change how she feels.
The hole in her soul is so big. I hope she finds a way to heal without the help of drugs, alcohol, food, shopping, etc.
I think she may suffer from depression also. Don't know if it would be just garden variety or postpartum. Don't know how to say that to her.
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