Sad

The littles and I had dinner with my friend Tom and his kids last night.  The kids we met are young grown ups.  And the littles just loved TJ.  I loved TJ.  He is so personable and outgoing and funny.  And then I realized he made my brain buzz.  And that made me very sad.

Tom is an alcoholic who is not drinking.  As I have discovered though he is not in recovery.  He has went through rehab six times.  When I asked him if he learned anything he just basically said it was always the same stuff.  To which I replied it probably was but we hear different things at different stages of our lives.  It was a bit disheartening for me for that to go over his head.  But every one goes down their own paths.  And while we may be friends, it won't be one of great substance or quantity.  

I wonder if he knows his son is going to go down his path.  I wonder if he cares.