It was posted in my group as a reminder for the children. And us. I've talked about it before....how we got here. But it is always a good reminder to myself of all the hows and whys.
If Dave and I had not chosen to parent the little woman and then taken in the little man when asked by the state.....they would no longer be in our lives. The state would have terminated the parents rights and they would have been adopted into another family. We have already experienced that loss from adoption earlier in our lives.
Life being what it is leaves me and the littles together. A family. We are a family of three making our way. One day at a time. We are a family, we have a home and we are blessed. The three of us have experienced great loss and continue to do so. And yet we have each other. The lesson here is that while some "family" chose to break ties for their own reasons...that is okay. We still have each other. We are better off the way we are than having people in our lives who really dislike and dishonor us.
The best scenario would have been for the littles's parents to step up and do the job. But at the time they could not. And the longer time goes, the less it can ever happen. They have a place, a grounding, a life. And it would be more loss to take them from it. I wish I could give them the family they deserve, but life doesn't work that way. So while the majority of their family chose to abandon them, I have not. And they have not abandoned me. We are family and blessed to have each other. And I feel like I am the lucky one. I get these two awesome little people in my life every day.
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