Trauma

I read this on facebook and it resonated.  "Trauma is not always about what happened, but how a person experienced it."  I know this.  Doesn't mean my brain goes that way.  When we were doing the intake appointments for therapy I was struck by how much trauma we have experienced as a family and individually.
Each single incident doesn't seem like much.  And my way of processing is quick and done, most of the time.  So this week I am not thinking about what happened last week, last month, last year.  But that is me.  So I was flabbergasted when I realized that the littles are not like me.  And they do not process like me.
That has not made me very helpful to them.  Not necessarily harmful, but not helpful either.  So that was another crack in he already broken heart.
The other saying that resonates is we do the best we can.  When we know better, we do better.  And so I am grateful for the therapist.  I am grateful for teachers who come from a different place and see different strategies to help.  I am grateful for a safe daycare that has given us a solid foundation.
We are as always taking life one day at a time.  We breathe.  We love.  Hopefully we heal.