Auntie Brenda

After work today Brenda and I were talking in the parking lot.  We were discussing the goings on this week with the kids and their Mommy visit.  Our family is very very small.  It used to be bigger, but a lot of the people in it died off as happens.  And some deaths bring the ends of other relationships.  As often happens.
The littles have this whole other side which is Cassie's family.  Some live up north and some live here.  If Nana Nita doesn't take them, they have no interaction with the ones who live here.  And Nana Nita lives up north so it doesn't happen very often.  The littles are completely out of sight out of mind.  I used to try to help the littles have relationships with this family.  I have been told countless times that they would help in any way they could.  I asked once who Rhianna used for daycare when I was looking at the need.  I had msged her on facebook since I no longer had her address/phone number.  It took her over three years to respond to it. I asked Missy if we could come see the farm when Audrie was in her farm stage.  That didn't happen.  It is what it is.  After a bit I gave up on trying.
So I try to put this whole thing in that bag of things that I try to let go of.  Yeah, I know, easier said than done.  Most of the time I'm pretty good and don't think about these things.  We just live our life and go about our day to day routine.  This week it all feels thrown in my face and it is hard to let it go.  I already know I am going to be offended if the littles don't get to go to the picnic.  Jazzlynn is going.  So I guess we wait and see how that one goes and not try to worry too much about it until it happens or doesn't.
But Brenda and I were talking about how we (meaning me and the littles) are creating our own family.  That is why we have an Auntie Brenda and an Auntie Marti.  We haven't found any cousins yet, but we might yet.  We take our support and love anywhere it comes from.  And it is sad that it comes from people who aren't related, but again it is what it is.
We go to the island and feel more connection with people we only see twice a year than we do with those who are related.  But I guess we actually see those people at the island more than we see the family on Cassie's side.
So here is a BIG shout out to those who are a part of our lives because they choose to be.  We love Brenda and Marti. Good thing for them and all they bring to our table.