Well the service was today. And every light between work and the funeral home conspired against me. I got there as people were moving to the refreshment room. Ahhh. All I can say is the service must not have started late at all and it was very short.
I sat next to Kaden. Another lady (his mom I learned later) sat on the other side of him. Someone else came up and asked if he was okay. He said he was. I looked at him and said, "It is okay if you are not okay." Because he was not okay. Today was the second hardest day of his life with respect to his granny.
On my way out I saw Wes. I gave him a hug. I still see the kid in him that I used to know. And he has been an adult for a long time now. It was good to see him and I'm so glad he had realized he needed to spend some time with his mom before she died. I was worried about that.
Sam was great on a day of great sadness. His quiet time is coming. I hope he remembers how many people love him and loved Karen. For a week or two after a death there is a lot of noise. Things to do. And then that all gets done and people go home and on with their lives. And that is when the loss is felt all over again. I think the having to do all the things and deal with the people is what keeps us sane for the first couple of weeks. It gives us time before we have to start dealing with our real outrageous grief. I know from experience since I didn't have that that it makes things harder.
And Chris had a harder time. He didn't join people in the refreshment room. And that is all right. I hope he got lots of hugs later.
Sending all the light and love I can muster to Karen's family. They need it right now.
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