Talking with Pat the other night about my estate and Dave's estate and I realized something. I find it annoying that Doug is taking SOOOOO long to do anything on this. Two months since Dave has died and as far as I can tell Doug hasn't done anything but go through some food and put a chain up on the driveway. I know that our way is not the only way to do things, but I think Dave thought Doug would be more like us in getting in and getting the job done. Again he was wrong.
But what hit me was maybe Doug can't. Maybe he is somewhat immobilized by his feelings or his non feelings about Dave and his death.
My annoyance factor is not as high as it was at first. I'm more into letting it go and rolling with it because it is part of the things I have no control over. And while I may now have a better understanding of him taking his time.....I will never understand the outright disrespect he has shown me and the littles. I know grief does a lot of things. But this is deeper.
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