Tom

I was thinking about Tom this week and his sons.  One of his sons makes my brain buzz.  And that is not a good thing.  Here is hoping I'm wrong on my brain buzz theory, but I doubt I am.  Anyway today I sent him a quick hey message to see if he is still alive.  He hasn't posted anything on facebook in a couple of months. 
I know he suffers from depression so figured maybe he was in a funk.  Well he messaged me back.  Heading soon to detox.  Drinking way too much.  And I was not surprised.  The last conversation we had was about a game he and his friend like to play at the bar so neither one drinks too much.  I know a man not in recovery and thinking he can still control it when I meet him or speak to him or whatever. 
So I am sending him healthy vibes in the universe.  Flat out told him I am co-dependent and that I've lived with it long enough to know my boundaries.  I can't fix him, save him or help him.  All I can do is offer to think of him.  I did say that perhaps he needed a different perspective like now that he has taught his children how to be an alcoholic, perhaps it was time to teach them what comes afterwards. Hindsight that was probably wrong, because addiction does not care about your children.  But it is a seed in his brain that some day may grow.  And I hope so because one day one of his sons may need him a lot.  And if he keeps drinking.....he won't be there.