I Only Have Two

That is what I was told.  Then the comparisons were made.  She had four.  All boys.  She kicked them outside most of the time because they lived in a single wide mobile.  She limited their screen time to an hour a day.  They ate what she cooked or they went without.  When they thought they were old enough to fight she tossed them across the room to show them they weren't.  There have been many comparisons made over the time I have known her.  It is almost always said as a backhanded insult.  See here is how I handled raising kids and I've done a much better job.   While she is making comparisons though, she neglects that hers was a two parent household on property with children not suffering from developmental trauma.  And she was a parent.  I'm a grandparent.  Older, tireder, slower, etc.
Unfortunately I have had to squeeze in a lot of reading and studying.  Developmental trauma stuff can be brutal.  There is a lot of anger.  There is a lot of rage that manifests at the main caregiver, in my case, me.  Typical disciplines of rewards, punishments, a quick swat on a butt, etc, does not work.  Some typical traditional things actually make things worse.  Believe me.  There is 24/7 flight or fight or shut down responses going on.  Both kids are ever vigilant.
I want to say that she was very lucky.  But she had her own crosses to bear.  So I try to remember that when she is giving me the backhanded insults.  So yes I only have two right now.  Thank goodness.  And I am blessed.  Even on the days I don't feel it.